The Helping Culture.

Helping Others

Yes it seems the world lacks one and is always seeking to heal as it begs for anyone to experience it. Let's no go far, in Nigeria today an answered prayer is when you rejoice among friends, church members and the public in narrating escapades in dodging the situation where you refuse to offer it. Even though it is so relegated that in the today of our times one understands the position of nursing it not even thinking of considering it, but it still cannot evade the risk of offering it to one who is at the spot of needing one. Help though is considered as Hospitality as it can be replaced by any word that comes to mind: "Charity"; "Kindness or Generosity"; "Philanthropy", etc. It is always good and end up in carving an untold memory of endless peace and happiness.

How Can This Help be Realized?

1. Professional: This is achieved through the means of tutoring, offering therapeutic services, etc. In doing so, the developing of conscience is formed, orientation is sharpened and attitude is grown according to the nature and spirit of the tutor or therapist. The givers of this profession does so very quietly as it passes through a silent medium owing to the reaping of the topic, discussions, sessions, seminars that tackles the prevalent evils or virtues of the times. This method, personally, is fading quickly and dying early if measured statistically. 
2. Religious: This is in the rendering or specialization of giving out sermons, homilies or khutbahs, Analects, Avesta to people in congregations, churches and mosques. The aim is to sensitize the moral nature and the spiritual well-being of the audience. It also appeals to the divine aspect as it cuts across different religion, thus assuaging the material satisfaction of the individual. 
3.  Communal: This is the application of social measures of relating with another person as it matters to the community or environment around the person. The majority of the people of the world engages in this as the explosion of the different kinds, nature, background, classes, disciplines, cultures of the person across any or all of the variables enlisted. 

In all of these, this article is aimed that the perceptive person cannot count the number of times help is offered him nor is offered help in a day. Thus needless of the fact that such is subject to experimental variations as researches, mostly psychological, are replicated across certain norms, standards and reliable factors are approved or disapproved. 

Researches that has succeeded in defining the helping behavior are:

• A Psychology of Health and Well being in Mass-gatherings.
• Organizational Citizenship Behavior 
• The Bystander Effect in Helping Behavior
• Helping Behavior and Generosity
• What Factors Influence Helping Behaviours In Humans?
• Gender and Helping Behavior
• Racial Factors In Helping Behavior

From these articles, I hope to let you know and convince you that despite the challenges in Helping, it does not stop anyone-even you from giving or helping for it is an endless action and an inbuilt trait of the average human being. Thus my conviction to you, especially Nigerians of whom this is meant for, do not retire in giving and helping.

Learning How to Read.

I sit in my room one early morning, hoping I'll do something good for myself. But to my amazement, I went blank. I had marveled and envied my friends who talk about their umpteenth book and all about the characters and its contents in less than an hour and I just sit and watch them, lost in the way they analyze books and their authors. Worse still, they are planning to publish their book and I am their best link to make it happen. This was the moment I was ushered back to reality. I begin to gasp for breath hoping for them to loose their attention in me. Luckily for me, I was able to save myself by enlisting some good publishers that would build their interest.

Now back to my room with my empty thoughts meandering on what to do. An idea struck me: I am envious over my friends and here I am having good networks of Publishers without me striving to publish a book so as to compete with them and as well get the tingling of praise around me-if possible by these friends of mine who had emptied catalogues of books. 'I SHALL START FROM SOMEWHERE' was what motivated me to begin a move that I feared disastrous but gradually a rapid success.

I started with a genre of my taste-Narrative Novels- and I decided to start with Danielle Steele's Big Girls Don't Cry. I chose it so I can teach myself how to read. Now many of my age grades and country men hardly read. And if they do then the slope of adjusting the measurement becomes amazingly disappointing. This is where it drops to few people reading constantly and from those reading constantly to those reading rapidly to a fewer people reading a particular genres and from there to people reading several genres and from there comes Writers... and it goes on till a tailor-sized person that befits the character and qualities of a good reader and writer. All this I learned as I began to determine my quest to finish the book- no matter how long it took me- after all it isn't my first. But unlike my reason for reading this book, I had none and this scares me till this day.

So off I begin with Danielle Steele's book and from this book, I discovered I had emptied a book because of my notes of every single thought and idea that struck me from the book. I used this format to understand the book as it helped me to understand any book I read(this obviously varies across genres, persons and style of person):

• Mind of the Author- This is also known as the plot of the novel or book. Here the way the author uses gestures, dictions, mood and literary style, characters and setting is identified. It is actually my first so as to find yourself engaged in re-writing with the Author's Mind the environmental occurrences around you. In this way, you are re-enacting the novel or book in your vicinity.
• Prefaces, Comments by Other Writers, Epilogue or Prologue- Here the idea and intention of the author or other authors is reeled in. It emphasizes the notion of why the book is written and the credits accrued to it. This is considered if the book had been read and either of the item is deliberately jumped so as to stir a meaning for yourself or may be considered a first read before diving into the chapters of the book. Across genres, such are the Acknowledgements, Preface, Introduction, Preamble, Forward, etc. The advantage of going through them is the requirement gathered for yourself to reproduce or motivate you in the creating your own novel.
• Reader's Reactions and Discovery. As I earlier pointed, you reading the book would have discovered some captivating moments, grammatical words or error, mood and notes. It is essential for it helps convey a message when you read your thoughts without the book. It is more of an apparent style or mock novel that exposes all about what you learned from the book and yourself.

Now, this is just a few highlighted to motivate you in creating your own novel or book. Please feel free to add or delete the points with yours as you share your experience. This discovery is mine and I have developed it but the majority of it is within these points.

Happy Reading!

Pending Issues between Modernism and African Change

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My Personality- Being a Perceiving Type

I refer you this blog and measure your self with this topic:  Rachel Grant Coaching: It's Just My Personality - Part 9: Being a Perceiving Type The other types will be sent later!  .  .  .  Enjoy

Living Your Life Your Way

I have seen many people growing up. Some in Rich, Middle class and Poor families respectively. These groups either wish they were never rich, or okay with whom they are or feel motivated to work hard so as to earn the status they want to achieve. But either way, the struggles, challenges and the weakness they discover often drag them back and slow them down from the priorities they make. It seems that their chips are down for them and they may end up pessimistic in their reactions.
People of the Rich Class seems to behave like ones led to a slaugherhouse. Their Way of Life as its generally seen is the "easy-getters" but some are not easy going. One would not blame them as to why they turn out with such an incredible or greedy kind of behaviour because if you are found in the same lifestyle they live on, you can end up doing worse or more indescribing then they. Yet, there are people: child, youths, adults whom have explored the paradise of their wealth and yet it deemed fit for them to dissociate themselves from their 'kingdom' to begin a life of their own. Whenever you check the background of where they come from it is obvious that one of the parent was either a middle class earner or poor before they made fortune. It is not likely it pertains to only a group or lifestyle of backgrounds too. However, such people who have chosen this way, will still end up glued to their kingdom but with a difference that would not match with their kinds of backgrounds- The Humility of Service.

For the Middle Class group of family, they tend to be the hot and cold mixture of all backgrounds. The Kinds of persons with this background are either melancholic to life or are the silent achievers- only if they have the opportunities of developing the richness of their goal in a secured healthy environment. It is from this sect of family that a mixture of good achievers in bad activities or Bad People working in good organisations is seen. Their traits are very hard to seperate from the things they do. This is seen as Society Neutralizers: Both Good and Bad Characters, displayed by the individual. This kind of individuals are pessismistic or indifferent to situations around them and as such they live their lives as such. It is also very diffiicult to assume the average of those who may outlive this kind of behaviour or has grown deep into it.